My favorite book on processing our “stories,” especially the ones that keep us stuck in negativities, is “The Marriage of Spirit: Enlightened Living in Today’s World” by Leslie Temple-Thurston.
In the first part of the book she teaches us the cosmic laws of living in a dualistic world. In the second part she walks you through three very powerful processing techniques meant to help dislodge the grip our shadows have on us. The first processing technique — polarity processing — I will outline here.
There are 7 steps to the Polarity Processing Technique.
- Pick an experience.
- Write a description of the experience.
- Pick out the theme words and phrases.
- Make a list of the theme words and phrases.
- Find the opposites.
- Offer it up with a prayer.
- Wait for grace.
Start by writing out in detail a story that has gripped you. Write out all the details, the feelings and thoughts related to this story. Just let it flow until you have extinguished your view from every angle on this story.
Next go through with a highlighter and highlight all the theme words and phrases that trigger you.
On a separate sheet of paper draw a line down the center. On the left side write out all the theme words. This may take several sheets of paper.
Next on the left side of each word write down the opposite word or phrase. For instance, if you wrote hate on the left side, write down love on the right side of the paper. If the opposites don’t immediately come to you, use a thesaurus.
The opposite words are the ones you are repressing out of your whole experience of life. They are in your shadow. This process is about transcending duality and embracing both sides as your true and whole experience.
Now offer a prayer of gratitude to god, spirit, angels or whatever you refer to as your higher self. And humbly wait for grace to help heal these imbalances within you.